I completely agree. I think Emily got her capacity for "compartmentalization" from Elizabeth, but not Elizabeth's zest for politics or penchant to focus on appearances first vs. underlying personal needs. It is not that Elizabeth is an unfeeling woman, but that her first reflex as a lifetime politico/negotiator is the ultimate importance of maintaining an impeccable, controlled facade no matter how distressing the circumstances. Personal needs are to be handled privately, discreetly, and she can't let go of that, even in the face of her own intense grief, without help from others. Well done!